{"id":729,"date":"2017-06-26T18:59:39","date_gmt":"2017-06-26T17:59:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/psychictoday.uk\/blog\/?p=729"},"modified":"2017-06-26T18:59:39","modified_gmt":"2017-06-26T17:59:39","slug":"saying-sorry-language-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psychictoday.com\/blog\/2017\/06\/26\/saying-sorry-language-love\/","title":{"rendered":"SAYING SORRY- The Language of Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

SAYING SORRY- THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE<\/h1>\n

The Language of Love \u2013 Saying \u201cSorry\u201d is the hardest thing to do.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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We have all done it. Reacted in anger, got the wrong end of the stick, misunderstood something or been caught out. When we have gotten \u201cit wrong,\u201d we all feel a deep and intense reaction. when we know we have hurt our partner. But how to put things right? Recover your harmony and togetherness once more.<\/p>\n

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Saying Sorry; 5 Easy Steps<\/strong><\/h2>\n

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Here are my 5 easy ways of \u00a0saying sorry.<\/p>\n

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Showing Regret \u2013 Show your true feelings.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

To be able to sincerely show your regret, zero in on the emotional hurt that has happened. You are admitting that you recognise what you have done. That you feel a sense of sadness, guilt and shame for causing hurt to your lover. Showing regret and saying sorry gets straight to the point,it therefore takes ownership for what has happened. It doesn\u2019t make excuses or try to push the blame.<\/p>\n

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In this way, you are expressing a deep desire and sincere commitment to rebuild and repair the feelings between you. The language of showing regret should be supported by relaxed, open body language, good eye contact and a calm demeanour which reinforces your sincerity. Then saying sorry can be seen in every way.<\/p>\n

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Taking Responsibility \u2013 Can you admit it?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

For some of us, the idea of being \u201cshown up,\u201d embarrassed or found out, triggers memories from childhood. This may have been when we experienced anger\/disapproval from our parents, teachers or peers. Sometimes, this is a very powerful reason not to take responsibility for what happened. We fear the rejection or letting some-one down. In turn, this negatively influences self-confidence and self-esteem.<\/p>\n

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But as adults, we are better able to admit our mistakes. And by doing so, you \u00a0immediately rebuild your lover\u2019s belief in you. But when you fail to take responsibility, your lover will be left feeling as if the apology is not sincere or meaningful. However, if you say, \u201cI was wrong\u201d this shows your lover that you are not afraid to show your weakness. You have overcome your ego. You trust your lover and the feelings you share. And you trust that they can understand and forgive. And together you can settle into a deeper understanding.<\/p>\n

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Making Amends \u2013 Going the extra mile.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

We all know the old saying \u201can eye for an eye\u201d. The concept of \u201cjustice\u201d is one which runs deep. And some people do need their partner to make amends for their actions. Interestingly, the offended party also want to know that their mate still loves them and what happened was not a deeper sign that the relationship is flawed.<\/p>\n

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For some of us a nice bouquet of flowers or a romantic meal out will be sufficient. But if you are unfamiliar with how your mate speaks their language of love, it may be hard to find a way to make amends. It may feel like you are \u201cdoing the time\u201d, for a while. But if you genuinely care for your partner, a sincere apology accompanied by the reassurance that you still love your mate, plus your heartfelt intention to make amends for what happened is a great way of getting things back on track<\/p>\n

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Happy Changes \u2013 We can do this!<\/strong><\/h3>\n

We all know that if an apology is offered AND accepted, you must follow through by being willing to modify your behaviour to avoid the situation again. It is also important that once you have cleared the problem, it should be left there and not brought up again, in an argument or at any other time. But maintaining the harmony after a difficult challenge requires more than just words.<\/p>\n

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It is better to verbalise your intentions as your lover can\u2019t read your mind. Talk about the changes you have decided to make. Apologies without change rarely have the best outcome due to the absence of action steps to maintain the agreed changes. By showing your vulnerability and desire for change for the good of the relationship, and planning those changes together, you will often than not have your partner rooting for you all the way.<\/p>\n

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Invite Compassion \u2013 Believe in your partner.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

At the beginning of this note I spoke about the fear of rejection when admitting a mistake. Knowing that you have failed your partner, let them down and hurt their feelings is difficult to overcome. But one of the first and best ways to re-kindle your connection is to accept that we are not perfect and that we ALL make mistakes. By inviting compassion and forgiveness we recognise our own imperfections, but most of all you believe in your partner\u2019s ability to accept them too.<\/p>\n

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When both of you understand this, it makes the act of forgiveness a healthy healing step between you. Try not to treat forgiveness lightly. It is something to be cherished and appreciated. The act of forgiveness is hard on both parties \u2013 for the person who\u2019s asking and for the person who\u2019s accepting, but what you both gain is trust, freedom and happiness.<\/p>\n

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Till next time,<\/p>\n

LeeVZ xxx<\/p>\n

Lee Van Zyl is a natural psychic, love psychic, spiritual healer and life coach. Get some healing in your relationship with enlightening insight from Lee! Always calming, sympathetic, honest and visionary, Lee will give you the reading of your choosing. Contact her via this link;\u00a0https:\/\/psychictoday.uk\/reader\/8738\/lee-van-zyl1<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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