Single and Hating it! Positive Steps to take.
So you are single and have been for some time. You yearn to feel love. To spend those precious moments laughing, smiling, kissing, sharing and talking with your beloved partner. When you see couples embracing in public, you long to be in that situation yourself. If you are single and hating it, then this advice is for you!
If you have come out of a relationship and you were the one who was hurt, you may find yourself wishing to get back with your ex. If you have been single for some time, you desperately want to meet the one for you. You may be constantly on the look -out for opportunity.
There are some steps you can take to make yourself feel better. These steps, believe it or not, can also encourage love into your life.
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Goodbye to Old Memories for now
If you are brooding about an old relationship and cry over pictures of you and your ex, then do yourself a favour. Pack up your photos into a box and put them somewhere safe. Resist the urge to look at them. This will not help you move on. If you go to bed hugging your ex’s pillow, or revisit their old text messages every day, then do the same. Save them, file them or pack them away. Trust me, once you are healed, you will see these in a different light.
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Analyse what will make you happy
Sitting down with a pen and paper and writing a list of things that make you happy can give you some elements to work on. Cupcakes? Swimming? Seeing beautiful flowers? Cup of tea with your best friend? Write down anything and everything that makes you feel good. Some of these things can be accomplished today, even if you have little money. Make it your goal to accomplish some or all of these and enjoy every experience. Honestly, these little pleasures can help chase the blues away.
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Enjoy the Time you have
When you are in a relationship, you often find you have less time for yourself. Simply because you are in a partnership, you can often no longer do things at your own pace. Think about things that you enjoy or that you used to enjoy doing before. Like cooking? Join a cookery class! Like sport? Go to the gym! Used to be a great disco dancer in your youth? Consider a modern dance class! Do whatever feeds your soul and makes you feel good about yourself. A busy person has less time to brood, so use your time to the maximum. In turn, who knows who you might meet during the course of these activities!
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Learn to Love yourself again
So who wants someone miserable? Who wants a moaning Minnie? The more positive you can be about yourself, the greater the chance is of attracting a new person. Lose the thoughts of “everyone is in a relationship except me” and start thinking “I am proud to be me.” Do whatever steps you need to really feel this way. Treat yourself always with kindness and positivity.
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Rules are; there ain’t no rules!
You may think there is a stigma attached to being single. Don’t think that! Many people really are single out of choice, or choose to spend their own time away from a partner. The point is to be as happy as you can be, when you are on your own. Don’t spend all your time simply pining to be with a partner. These days there are no rules to being single or being in a relationship. Try to go with the flow with what you need to make you happy. When the time is right, someone really will magically appear when you least expect it.
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There is someone new out there for you
No, all the good ones are not taken! There are many people of both sexes that have been in failed relationships. As you know, sometimes people just aren’t compatible. You will meet the right person BUT when the time is right. In order for this to happen, make sure you spend time on YOU. Work on aspects you know you need to improve. Your weight? Your health? A hobby? The more you think and respect yourself, the more of a dream partner you will be for the right person, when they come along.
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The Law of Attraction and the future.
Positive energy breeds positive energy. When you feel down and glum, your vibrational energy can be at a low. You are hardly sparkling with stunning energy for anyone to be attracted to you. Concentrate on what you DO have. A roof over your head? A family? A friend? A job? A cat? These are things that others do not have. Be happy and grateful for the good elements you have in your life and build on this to add more positive aspects. You will see a change for the better in your energy. This is what makes you attractive to others too.
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Be picky and don’t waste time
When you hate being single, it’s easy to view every date with the hope that it will turn into something long term. This is quite frankly not a helpful attitude. Try to be open, but also to listen to your inner needs. Go on each date with an open mind. Don’t compare your date to others you have dated, just try to consider your date in their own right. After all, they are giving you their time. Try to be fair to them. Really find out about them by asking the right questions.
Don’t leap in and commit to anything yet. Take the time to go home and sleep on it overnight. See how you feel about them in the morning. If all is well in the cold light of day, then there will be opportunities to see them again. Don’t ever feel hurried or like you might miss a chance. The right person will not hurry you. Don’t spend time with someone you don’t feel sure about, just because you don’t want to be on your own. It is better to learn to love your time on your own, rather than waste your time with unsuitable partners.
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Sex or not sex?
Certainly avoid sleeping with people you are not sure about. We all have needs, but respect to yourself and to your future partner will get you a long way. There are lots of articles and different viewpoints in the internet about this point, but generally speaking you don’t want a relationship just based on sex. If you have to say no from minute one, this is not a sign that your date respects you. My advice is simply to be sure that there is another basis to the relationship apart from sex, before you go that far.
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When is new love coming?
Every single person who is unhappy would love to know the future. Yes, you can ask a psychic. They will tell you what they see is coming in for you and when. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still work on a new and positive you! This is what can make that new person coming in have an interest, and to be attracted to you.
PSYCHICS AND LOVE
A psychic can give you more than simple insight on new Love. They can also guide you on your positive path. Many of our psychics can also give you insight on the Law of Attraction and how you may wish to use this to your best advantage. Psychics who practice energy clearance can also look at your blockages and work on you with the aim to remove these. Spiritual healing for emotional upset can also be sent by reiki practitioners.
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