There is drama of some kind in everybody’s life. This is one of those questions where people ask many psychics:
“Why do I always attract bad things into my life, and why is my life always draining, dramatic and negative? Why?”
Does living a drama free life sound boring to you?
My personal opinion is that more people get involved in drama if they feel a little lost in life. Perhaps sometimes they feel as if they aren’t getting enough attention, they are merely bored, they are feeling lonely and need a fix of some kind? It can be the equivalent to a high, as one lady put it, but also it can be very draining for others around them too.
Sometimes creating drama constantly in your life, be it family issues, relationship problems or even work issues are, I feel, all deep seated problems from areas surrounding emotions which perhaps haven’t been dealt with in the past. Most are linked with how you feel about yourself.
I have noticed the following signs below, these can be, in my opinion, indications around someone always wanting drama in their lives without realising and why doing this prevents them from moving on to a life more rewarding and worthwhile:
1. A love of gossip, mostly other people’s lives.
2. There is always something going wrong in your life, which could be worse than it seems. Then it equates to an even bigger issue and could spiral out of control.
3. Over reacting to everything, versus rational behaviour. Not being emotionally stable or secure.
4. Blaming others for your difficulties or problems, emotionally.
5. Everything is a huge deal and effort.
6. You love to stir things up, in order to receive different reactions from people. You like to see how others react so you can “get” something from it.
I find people who like drama and create misery and difficultly in their lives, want, what I would call, emotional attention. However, it’s not always easy to understand on a deeper level without seeing someone about it in person. It is more related to attention than anything thing else and how they are feeling about themselves also at that one time.
They may be confused about something or upset about someone and at that one moment feel misunderstood and not loved.
“Give me attention!” they shout inside.
Over the years, it is at times difficult to disassociate from people who bring constant drama into your life. There will be times where you will want to be completely away from it. Why? Because you will want to always surround yourself with people who understand that living in drama impacts all areas of our lives negatively. You will notice over time that if you like gossip, drama and creating it, you will also notice how others will start to move their energies away from you and not like being around your company either.
It is much easier to stay out of drama when you surround yourself with people who don’t live in it! They don’t create it nor do they want to understand it. They don’t gossip, they aren’t always in the middle of a challenge or problematic situation, they find zero significance in other people’s upsets and don’t blow everything out of proportion. They recognise that life’s bumps are just that, a momentary hiccup in life and then get on with things as best they can. They breeze through life and their circumstances too. They aim to lead a peaceful, drama free life. They use their intuition and knowledge to see that life with drama is a life of potential unhappiness and challenges.
The hardest part in letting go and releasing from the need of drama is that like any need (which it is), most people actually get some form of pleasure from these very things which are not good for them. You know too much of something isn’t good for you, so you carry on repeating those mistakes when really you know can be negative.
The reality is that in life, drama will always be around us no matter how many times you say to yourself “I don’t want it!”. You can’t get away from it, but you can choose not to let it consume or control you. You can control how you deal with something, because sometimes an unmet expectation is exactly what you needed to happen.
When we are naturally emotional and highly sensitive, we attract more drama. In order to stay drama-free, my feeling is to release the emotion and move to something else, or use your inner sensitivity to start something creative. Use this lovely side of you for something else worthwhile. If we fear being taken for granted or have a fear about something, talk it over rather than creating something out of nothing, as it could well be nothing and release your fears for good instead of hurting the other person directly.
The other person must love drama too if they invite this behaviour around them to always happen, more so in relationships. A drama seeking person will naturally seek out (subconsciously) a similar drama seeking individual to receive that high they are wanting attention.
So, here’s your homework for today!
I dare you to give up on any kind of drama for the next month. Try and stop making everything look worse than it really is. See things as they really are, do not fear anything, do not let your insecurities rise. Try to create a better story around the events that happened in your life and aim to only see the positives. Unless there is evidence around it for you to move away from it, do so, but do it in a way that it is done without emotion and drama. Just let it go away from you. When you let go of allowing your circumstances to dictate your outcome, you may find yourself in control of your future. It can feel like you are taking yourself away from negativity at the same time.
When you have an intention and it doesn’t work to your plan, instead of sitting around, getting upset and angry or lashing out at someone or yourself, recognise that feeling bad about it won’t change the outcome or solve the problem. If anything, it is only YOU who comes off worse in the end.
So instead of getting caught up in the drama – create a new plan and take action!
How we choose to respond to the situation and the drama which seems everywhere will dictate the response and outcome. Remember, how you react will be your outcome.
The next time you are met with a situation which you do not like, STOP, take a deep breath and remind yourself that everything has a way of working out the way you may not have had control over and could be for the better too. Just don’t react, think logically but reasonably too.
This article was written by renowned psychic Joanna Scott, author of The Love Key. She is available for a private consultation at Psychic Today, the UK’s leading psychic service and longest-running Psychic TV show.
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