Does the thought of your approaching first date have your heart pumping out of your chest? Are your experiencing cold sweats and heavy breathing at the very idea of making conversation with someone new?
Take a deep breath and relax. Simply follow these 10 easy-to-ask questions and watch the ice (and your nerves!) melt away as you put you and your date at ease on that all important first date.
1. What’s your favourite childhood TV programme?
Reason: The initial question is very important, as it is used to set the tone of the date as a whole. Asking about a favourite TV programme makes for easy conversation and allows you to bring out the animated side of your date as they reminisce and describe the most memorable moments from their childhood. This immediately creates a relaxed atmosphere and lets in a sense of familiarity between the two of you.
2. What movie or TV show could you watch over and over again?
Reason: Still remaining in the borders of TV conversation, you will prevent any awkward silences and also give yourself a sense of your date’s preferences. This will also enable your date to reflect on experiences and talk through their trail of linking thoughts. Watch and listen as conversation progresses!
3. What music are you into?
Reason: This tells you more about your date’s preferences and gives you a little more insight into their personality. It also gives you the chance potentially connect you with your date easily and quickly.
Tag question: Now name any singer that you can’t stand the sound of.
Reason: This brings humour and light-hearted fun into your date. If by chance they happen to mention an artist you love, it will give you the opportunity to explain your taste, and if they mention an artist you also dislike, you’ll be nattering away before you know it about the hit that never should have made the Top 10 – already bonding over things you have in common.
4. If you could play any instrument what would you play?
Reason: This links into the questions related to music, helping to maintain the flow of the conversation. The answer they give will give you an indication of your date’s artistry and character. Asking them to elaborate on why will give you more of a look at their personality.
5. Do you like to dance?
Reason: This allows for more fun light hearted conversation and also gives you ideas on what you could do for a second date.
Tag question: What’s the one song that always gets you on the dance floor – even if it’s your secret guilty pleasure?”
Reason: Even if your date doesn’t dance, this gives them an opportunity to poke fun at themselves or show a more animated side of themselves. Asking them to give you a demonstration of their “moves” will bring even more enjoyment and teasing to the date.
6. Did you have a nickname from high school?
Reason: By asking them to elaborate on the reason for the nickname, this will present an opportunity for you both to exchange high school stories and create more moments for potential bonding.
7. What’s your most embarrassing moment?
Reason: This gives you the chance to share something cringe worthy with your date allowing you to showcase your humour as well as bring out theirs. It is the best way to drop the veil and build a bond over a shared laugh.
8. Describe yourself in three words and explain why.
Reason: After creating a comfortable and familiar environment with your date, it is okay to put them on the spot and have them tell you about themselves on a slightly deeper level. Their answer as well as your own will enable you both to assess your compatibility and is also a good way of finding out how much of an optimist or pessimist they are.
9. What’s your favourite drink?
Reason: Although this doesn’t seem like an important question, it will say a lot about both your listening skills if you remember what to order on your second date.
10. Would you like a bite of my dish?
Reason: This question reveals how open you are to sharing. When asking this question use a friendly tone rather than an intimate tone. This shows your interest without making you look overly eager. After all, sharing a plate of food is about as intimate as it gets on a first date.
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