Discover the secrets of body language to help you on your next date!
How we position ourselves, smile, laugh, talk and interact on a first date speaks volumes about what we’re thinking. Here’s how to spot some potential signs, based on body language, that he or she is already thinking about a second date.
Dating body language explained
Look out for your date twirling their hair, running their hands through their fringe or adjusting their clothes.
These subconscious hand movements are preening gestures, and they scream ‘I want to look good for you’ – especially when teamed with a playful smile. Repetitive hair playing or finger tapping also suggests nervousness – which is natural if your date is really hoping to impress you, but be careful of head-scratching and a frown, which indicate frustration, confusion or boredom.
Those of you in tune with your body language will know that eye contact is the first giveaway of attraction.
If you find your date looking at you for more than five seconds at a time, he or she is giving you their undivided attention – ultimately, they’re really, really interested. When we first see someone we’re attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall – lasting less than a fifth of a second, it’s an easy-to-miss indicator of instant attraction.
The rise of the brow pulls the eyes open, making the eyes look wide, bright and inviting. If you notice his or her brow remaining slightly raised while you’re talking, your captivating presence is pulling them in and they just can’t get enough.
It’s an obvious one, but when we’re nervous we often forget to smile. Smiling shows that you’re a friendly, open, approachable person – and it’s infectious, particularly if there’s an attraction between the two of you.
We often mirror the movements and expressions of someone we’re attracted to so if you find yourself smiling while you’re telling a funny story, watch your date’s face to see if they follow suit.
A slight parting of the lips is recognised unconsciously as an indicator of sexual interest – watch the line of his or her gaze while you’re talking to see if it flickers down to your mouth. If yes, they could be thinking about kissing you.
When we’re sat with someone we’re interested in, we angle our entire upper bodies to face them. If your date leans forward with his or her chest, head and shoulders, they’re doing it to show they’re interested in only you. No one else will be stealing your attention – it’s all theirs! If they’re really interested, they’ll perch on the edge of their seat to get closer – and if they cross their legs, the top leg will point in your direction.
To seem confident and sure, maintain good, straight posture. If you slump in your chair and lean back, you’ll seem disinterested and nervous – so if you’re dressed to impress, follow suit by letting your body language showcase your sassy, confident self. Avoid crossing your arms, too; it signals defensiveness, making you seem closed off or uncomfortable. When we feel insecure about a part of our bodies we often subconsciously hide it with our hands – have you ever noticed a friend covering their mouth when they laugh?
Crossed legs tell the same story – people will often stand with one leg crossed across the other when they’re in a group of people they don’t’ know well. When we feel threatened, we often let one arm fall across the body to hold the opposite elbow – like a self-hug, it reveals insecurity, as if you’re comforting yourself with a hug. To exude confidence, keep your body language open.
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