Online Dating – A Psychic Perspective – By Penny B
Online Dating seems to be very much all part of the dating process these days and why not? It was something that used to be very much a taboo thing. However the stigma that once surrounded it as a “desperado” thing to do has now disappeared.
People are becoming single at all different ages now and there is a need to keep all options and dating avenues open. In general it becomes harder to meet people through conventional ways as we get older. Certainly if I were single I’d be doing it too!
I speak with my Clients and a few observations have become very apparent to me, which is in a lot of ways, quite concerning to me.
COMMITMENT
As two people are chatting to one another and they start to feel a “connection”, it’s sometimes assumed, before even meeting, that a relationship has already been established and a commitment is in situe. However, these people have never even met and sometimes they are talking about spending the rest of their lives together. I do believe it’s good to exchange communications before meeting up with someone and establishing why they are dating. Asking what they are hoping to find, as not everyone in the dating game these days is looking for a long term relationship and I guess nothing much changes there. HOWEVER, it is important to remember that everything is a fantasy until you actually meet up with someone.
DISILLUSIONMENT
Whilst someone may seem compatible in communications that can also be “fixed” too. For example, I’ve heard of conversations going like this
Him: What’s your favourite meal?
Her: Roast Dinner
Him: Oh mine too
Him: What’s your favourite TV Programme
Her: Any animal documentary
Him: Ooooh that’s so my favourite too
These types of conversations make it look like the pair of you have many of things in common and that you have found a “match” and it’s easy to get caught up in this type of situation too.
MONOGOMY
People have also asked the other to stop dating other people and coming off of dating sites altogether before a meeting too, because they want that person to be committed to them. I have a lot of difficulty with people committing to each other before an actual meeting/date. In fact, I’d say, don’t get too excited until you’ve met up 3 or 4 times. People end up feeling quite hurt and disappointed when they finally do meet that person as the fantasy expectations don’t actually match the reality because they aren’t what they thought they were, because you have gotten too carried away with the fantasy of the situation.
I feel it’s important when doing online dating to “cast your net wide” and chat to lots of different people and go on lots of dates. A little bit like an interview process. That is dates and chat, not intimacy! From my own research, it seems the people that do this tend to enjoy the online dating experience a lot better, as they feel more in control of what they are doing and not becoming fixated with the fantasy. Until you’ve actually met up and established that there is a genuine connection and you both want to commit to each other from there. Try to remember that this is a getting to know you process that has stages and phases just like everything else in life and these are important stages to be enjoyed
TRUST
I have known Clients to meet up with someone and spend nights away with them. Just because you’ve been chatting for x amount of weeks/months doesn’t mean they are genuine and trustworthy Always meet in a public place and trust your gut feeling. If a situation doesn’t feel right, chances are it isn’t and then make your excuses to leave.
EXPECTATIONS
When I hear that my Clients have “fallen in love” with someone they’ve never met or have committed themselves to someone they’ve never met, my alarm bells ring immediately. I hope that things do work out for them and they don’t get hurt. However, I know invariably they will be back, feeling rather sore and disappointed because they have fallen in love with the fantasy they have built up in the minds and have very high expectations. When I’ve built up a rapport with someone this makes me feel very sad indeed.
ARE YOU ONLINE DATING?
May be you’re dabbling with online dating right now, why not have a Psychic Reading to take a look at the person or people that you are chatting to, to see what their intentions are or in fact anything to look out for. Or may be you’re ready to commit to someone and have developed feelings and you want to be sure they feel the same way about you too. Whichever it is a Psychic Reading can give you insight into your in your quest for “the one. Why not speak to one of our Psychics today.
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